Narcissists live amongst us. You might be friends with a narcissist, or you might work with one. You might even be dating one! We received a question from a reader who suspects that she might be dating a narcissist. She’s worried about the future of her relationship; and rightfully so! Dating a narcissist can be difficult, confusing, and in the worst cases can turn emotionally manipulative or abusive. While this isn’t the case for all narcissists, it’s good to be aware of potential signs. Are you dating a narcissist? Read about these ten signs to tell if you’re dating a narcissist or not.
1. What is Narcissism?
To start things off, let’s break down this title. Do you know what Narcissistic Personality Disorder really is? It’s more intense than someone who counts their likes on Facebook. The DSM-5 criteria states that to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, someone must be impaired in both self functioning and interpersonal functioning. This means that they gain their self-identity and self-motivation from others, often through traits such as grandiosity, antagonism, and attention-seeking behaviours. Narcissists experience low levels of empathy, and……
We are all tired. Really, we are. It’s a hard road, but it’s also a beautiful one. Perhaps we expect too much from ourselves and from others. Perhaps humanity can only make slow progress, like an inch worm. Perhaps we need to celebrate how far we have come more often. And rest more. And relish the simple pleasures. And look for love everywhere. There is a river near where I live. It meanders slowly, peacefully. It doesn’t ask itself why it isn’t an ocean, or a raging river, or some other thing. It just surrenders to what it is. Maybe we just need to surrender more to who we are. I think I will lie down tomorrow beside the river. And take a rest. And sweet surrender. - via @wizdomly (via wizdomly)
